So I haven't told many people about my coming out story, so for those who are like me (masculine guys) that have not come out, you may want to read this. So I have to say in my experience coming out has many advantages and disadvantages. The biggest advantage is when you do come out, your friends and family will sort themselves out. For instance my uncle wanted nothing to do with me but my cousins supported me. This truly sets out your true friends and your true family apart from the posers. And in my experience being a masculine gay guy is much harder to come out than it is for a feminine guy. Feminine guys are not as much of a shock and surprise, that is because of stereotyping. And in most cases in general people are stereotypical whether they realize it or not. I was 21 years old when I came out. It took me 21 years to realize the truth and the truth is I wasn't me, the real me. And I told my mother first, because no matter what, my mother would always love me (and of course she would tell my father). She took it very hard and portrayed the symptoms of a crisis (for instance losing a child or loved one). The symptoms being denial and all the other many phases. It took a while to finally click in but I made my position very clear, I'm not changing and this is who I am. And the point that I couldn't stress enough to my parents, the only thing that's different is now you know. I didn't change my lifestyle, didn't change anything about myself. And now they accept it. I had many questions asked by my parents and some offended me but I didn't tell them that, I just answered the questions honestly. Why are you gay? What makes you think you're gay? Has someone "played" with you? How lucky not have you been gay? How many guys have you been with? These were the main questions I received. Now I understand that some guts have at some point been molested and I'm very sorry if that happened to anyone, but that has never happened to me. But the question goes back to what I said earlier about stereotyping. And it's quite halarious how stereotypical people are! But after I came out my relationships with my true friends and family strengthened drastically, they saw the true me and not the poser that I was. If I could go back I would have told them much much earlier. And for those that are thinking about coming out or just want advice, by all means ask away. And I'm not saying that every gay guy will have the same results, but I do want to say that I have zero regrets about doing it. So that's my coming out story and thanks for taking time in reading it!